I have fielded a wide variety of questions since I started growing my dreadlocks in December 2012. The inquiries from family, friends, and complete strangers have seeded the desire to share the story of my dreadlocks journey here.
During the first couple decades of my life, I didn't give much consideration for how my hairstyle could be an external expression of my personality and spirit. I experimented with several common hairstyles - bowl cuts throughout elementary and middle school, and preppy spikes and buzz cuts during high school and college. I even shaved my head with a friend of mine in college, simply to have the experience of being fully bald for a few weeks. Coming to the realization that voluntary baldness is just not my style was not at all difficult for me.
After suffering through all of those hair faux pas I decided to start growing out my hair a few years after graduating from college, with the faintest idea about growing dreadlocks. Three years into this experiment netted me 23 inches of straight blond hair, which became a fun part of my personality but my intention for growing dreadlocks did not go away - if anything it became stronger.
I studied the process of growing dreadlocks for about a year before deciding I had enough information to feel confident with beginning the process. Dread Head HQ was my main source of information, and proved invaluable for me during the initial stages of my dread journey. (Disclaimer: I am not affiliated with Dread Head HQ in any way shape or form, although I continue to be a satisfied customer!) There are also plenty of websites and YouTube videos that are helpful for learning more about growing dreadlocks.
Two of the major concepts that I implemented from Dread Head HQ were the importance of identifying a personal reason for growing dreadlocks and committing to growing them for at least a year before chopping them off in frustration. Figuring out the reason for growing dreadlocks gives someone on this path a foundation to hold onto when things get rough, and committing to a full year will get the majority of dreadlock initiates through the awkward phase.
The reasons for growing my dreadlocks stemmed from several changes that I made at that time in an effort to become a healthier and happier person. These improvements included eating more nutritionally-dense plant-based foods, running and exercising regularly, focusing on meditation and yoga, maintaining a healthier weight, becoming a better listener and friend, and getting a better handle on my finances. In a nutshell, my main reason for growing dreadlocks was to give myself a visual reminder to stay dedicated to my personal growth and continue to focus on self development.
As the years have gone by, my dreadlocks have taken on additional meaning for me, including signifying where I am on my spiritual path and giving me more confidence in my physical appearance. The aspect of "looking cool" has never been important to me, although I will admit that I feel more like myself with dreadlocks than I ever did in the past.
Committing to one year of growing dreadlocks was not a huge challenge for me. I had experimented with several self-guided 30-day challenges prior to growing dreadlocks, so I felt confident in committing to a full year. Little did I know how much work I would put into them and how different they would turn out from the image I had in mind, but one lesson that growing dreadlocks taught me was to surrender to the process itself. Dreadlocks are not the type of hairstyle that you put in one day and have the next — they must be earned!
When the time came to backcomb my straight hair into baby dreadlocks, I invited a group of friends to my house for a Dread Party so they could help me get started. Describing the event as a rough start would be an understatement — my friends were only able to backcomb about a quarter of my sectioned hair before they left for the day. I spent the next week staying up every night backcombing my own dreads and getting more assistance from two of the friends from the Dread Party. I decided to cut my hair length in half during this process to save time and frustration, which left me with only about 12 inches of hair. After at least 100 additional hours, I completed the backcombing process and started the beginning stages of maintenance.
Without getting into the minutiae of early dreadlock maintenance, I will summarize by saying that I spent roughly 10 hours a week palm-rolling, waxing, rubberbanding, washing and drying, salt-spraying, and re-backcombing stubborn dreadlocks with loose tips. During the first three months of my dread journey, I made an impulse decision to trim some of the dreadlocks with loose tips that were not accepting the backcombing process. That decision has left me with a head of dreads with various lengths, although I now regard it as something that makes my dreadlocks unique.
Ten months passed, my dreadlocks were still not locked, and they did not look anything like I originally hoped for. I made the decision to visit a local dreadlock repairman who untangled the webbed mess of roots to establish dreadlocks that were separate from each other rather than the one huge beaver tail dreadlock that they were gradually becoming. This was the moment when things started to turn around for the better — my roots were secure, but my tips were still loose.
I ended up pulling the loose tips into their respective dreadlocks at the 15-month mark, which made my dreadlocks very short and awkward, but I was much happier with them. People even stopped asking me if my dreads were falling apart, which I always thought was a rude question but I tried to not let it get to me.
In fact, the questions I was asked during the first 15 months were engaging at best and frustrating at worst. I knew that having dreadlocks would cause complete strangers to talk to me, but I wasn't prepared for blatant criticism from people who didn't even know me. There were several times when snooty folks told me they looked terrible or that I needed to get them fixed. I never considered chopping them off, since I had put several hundred hours of work into them and I knew that they would eventually be something I was proud of. Negative feedback has dwindled down to almost zero at this point, which certainly feels like something I have earned.
After two years of growing dreadlocks, I love them more than ever and each day gets better than the last. It is awesome to look at them nowadays and recognize the hard work, belief, and tenacity that they hold. They have served as an excellent visual reminder for me to stay committed to myself and continue on my spiritual path. I wish I could say that I recommend dreadlocks for everyone, but I recognize that most people don't have the courage or ability to look unkempt for a year or more. I hope that you have enjoyed this tale of mine and that it gives you a deeper understanding of the work that it takes to grow an impressive head of dreads.
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